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Hari Mencabar....
Today has been a hard day for all of us...as usual I went to the hospital at lunch time to see atok with home cooked food and today he's in foul mood and confused.He had the scan done this morning and we explained to him last night that he is not allowed food and drinks after 10pm as a prep for the hepato scan.He clearly understand but when we saw at lunch time he was angry that the staff didn't give him b'fast and when he wants a drink he was told he can't ..... he probably can't remember.
Then he told me they took him on the train going into tunnels and ended in a place and he can't find his way back .... he claims he called everyone of us but no one answered the call???Iwent along with him lah then he was repeating the same story when Aini and Kam arrived and also when Adah came .... he thinks he is staying in a hotel and doesn't like it want to change to another hotel???Before we left he was ok and went to sleep.
After I got home at around 3pm my sis Lina called to say the hospital called and say atok can be discharged????...in my opinion he is not fit to come home yet cause his mind is all confused.So I called the hospital and spoke to the doctor abt it....told him atok is not himself when I saw him at lunch time how can be fit for discharged.....please bear in mind its not that I don't want him home.According to the doc for his acute complain #arm he is fit for discharged and the complications that came along when he was there to be treated at outpatient dept.
Anyway I told the doc we will be there in the evening at 6pm and would like to discuss with him.
At 6pm when we arrived again father was so angry .... the staff told me he wanted to leave the bed and leave because he has an appt at 5pm.....ofcourse the staff was doing his duty to tell him he can't leave the ward....then he start abt $$ says he can afford to pay for his hospital stay. etc etc.. saying they look down at him thinking he has no $$$.......when Aini ask him where he wanted to go?He says he is meeting me because I am suppose to change to another hotel???atok seem confused or issit I am confused?
Later when Ram and Saat arrived he start with his journey by train again and we told him what happened in the morning that he went for the scan .... the doctor came when are all there and we ask about discharging atok and we find that atok is very confused .... technically in his point of course his #arm is ok but too us his mind is not .... so the moral of the story being in subsidised ward when you are for acute treatment you get the minimum stay .... it was a long talk questions and answers....we did plead for extention stay and unfortunately no go....so we have to decide if he comes home tomorrow how am I going to cope and when I start work how?? even if you want a get a maid it takes time .... solution....solution......we can put him in a community hospital like St Luke the one he was in after his stroke 4 yrs ago but that too will take time as you need to apply and they see case to case.....and the social worker will interview us first before you get aproval.....to put him in a nursing home is the next option but tak sampai hati pulak kan?
We left the ward at 9pm and atok refused to salam us ...merajuk... dia nak balik nak cabut semua benda2 kat tangan dia .... say we are stubborn ask to pull the drip pun tak nak ..... told us to balik...balik...balik.....
We are yet to decide and for tonite I just want to sleep first as I am so tireddddddddddddd.
In view of atok's condition our trip to KL is cancelled.
till my next entry.............
Labels: Family/atok
posted by Kak Elle at 10:14 PM
15 Comments:
*hugs*..
sabar yea akak...things r bound to be difficult.. i hope u n ur siblings will be able to find some sort of solution...
take care...will be checking this blog a thousand times for ur update...take care akak..May Allah help u all...*hugs*
simah...
thank u for the *hugs*
we will have a family meeting today and hopefully can resolve the problem:)
At one stage my mother pernah jadi macam bapak kak elle, selalu lupa dan cepat merajuk dengan anak-anak, tapi memang tak boleh nak ikut semua cakap dia sebab kita tau dia tak berapa sedar akan apa yang berlaku di sekelilingnya.
Mencari pembantu adalah jalan terbaik .
Saya doakan agar semua urusan dipermudahkan , InsyaAllah. AMIN.
rina....
betul tu dia tak tau apa yg dia cakap...my bro ada tanya kat dia 'bapak tau tak apa bapak cakap tadi'...dia jawab berputar belit cerita dia..
pembantu mmg jln terbaik tapi itu pun akan mengambil masa jadi untuk sementara waktu is to put him in the community hospital di mana ada physio yg akan membantu dia bergerak.
Salam...I am so so worried about Atok's condition. My doa is for him to regain his oldself ASAP. InsyaAllah with all the doas from your family and blogger friends, we hope there is a way to a good solution. Take care..
Kak Elle, banyakkan bersabar ya. Dugaan anak-anak menempuh kerenah orang tua kita yg nampaknya tak sedar apa yg dia buat. Semoga Kak Elle dan adik-adik tabah.
Kak Elle,
Please be patience ya... My uncle had Alzheimer 5 years ago and when he was admitted to hospital, he was talking to himself and degil sangat.. Won't listen to his family members... At one point, he ran away from the hospital with the hospital gown still on... Tengah2 malam, terus cabut lari... Last2, misi jumpa dia kat hospital compound - sesat... Took him back to the hospital - 3 months later, he's fully recover and when asked, he said he couldn't remember and didn't know why he did it...
The moral of the story - don't give up hope. There is always a chance for bapak to recover. He's always in my prayers.
maklang...
TQ ..insya'allah we find a solution soon.
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nora...
kita selalu dengar problem org lain but now problem sendiri terjadi susah juga nak absorb kan?
semoga kami semua akan cepat huraikan masaalah ini.
cath...
we are all hoping for the best for him...and thank u for having him in your prayers too:)
Kak...semoga akak dan adik2 yang lain dpt bersabar dengan apa yang atok sedang alami sekarang...dan harap2 keadaan atok tak berpanjangan....
Menjaga orang tua ni memang memerlukan kesabaran yang tinggi...lebih2 lagi bila mereka sakit...mereka kadang2 seolah2 mencabar tahap kesabaran kita.
Kalau kak elle tak dpt datang ke KL masa CNY ni...lady harap akak dpt datang dilain masa...sebab masa CNY ni pun MIl nak kemari...jadi memang tak berpeluang nak jumpa kalau akak datang...
Take care kak...*Hugs*
Kak Elle.. orang tua begitulah cepat confused esp kalau dok tpt yg dia tak suka.. InsyaAllah kalau kat rumah nanti dia ok.
Kak Elle take care ok
Ya Allah, Kak Elle. I missed your blog a few days, jengok aje dah ada shocking development. Banyak bersabar & berdoa.
Tak jadi datang KL? Takpe, next time la.. Insyaallah.
kak elle, what can i say that has not been said? May Allah give you strength. Take care of yourself too.
Kak Elle, I am adding to the prayers and good wishes, semoga bapak recover secepat mungkin dan semoga Kak Elle dan adik-adik diberi kesabaran oleh Allah. Take care.
kaklady
sya
hazia
kak teh
qoth....
thank you all for the moral support and kata peransang...needed that and alhamdulillah hari ni cool sikit...nanti saya buat entry bial penat dah hilang ...sehari di hospital.
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